How to get Perfect Abs

by Brad Pilon

Some of the biggest things holding you back in your weight loss efforts and your dream of perfect abs are not named ‘Protein’,’Fat’ or ‘Carbs’.

It’s probably not even ‘Calories’.

(…well actually it is Calories, but it’s just a tiny bit more complex then that.)

No, today I’m talking about two non-calorie things.

Self-Confidence and Perfection.

So let’s clear this up right away. 

It is a misconception that you have to be ‘special’ to be successful at weight loss.

This misconception stems from the fact that we like to think that the people giving us diet advice are somehow ‘perfect’.

Living perfect lives, with the perfect bodies with the perfect jobs etc.

This creates a situation where it becomes difficult to have confidence in ourselves because we simply do not measure up to these seemingly perfect people.

However, Nobody is perfect.

So here’s the truth…

That diet guru with the awesome abs that everyone thinks eats ‘perfectly’…He’s a chocolate FIEND.

The 600 pound bench presser who constantly gives advice on training..He’s had three shoulder surgeries and bone spurs removed from his elbows…as a direct result of his benching.

The Hollywood celebrity touting his super dedicated workout program he used to get in shape for “Kiss of Death 32″…He forgot to tell you he’s on various anabolic steroids.

The Paleo Princess who thinks that HFCS is made directly form the essence of the devil…She secretly loves the occasional Coca Cola when at the movies.

The shredded diet guru…who is actually about 60 pounds overweight (the pictures you see on-line are from 2001)

The dozen or so magazine covers you see every month…They are a result of photoshop mastery.

The point is:

No one is perfect, so don’t freak out when you discover that you’re not perfect either.

The idea of having shredded abs 24/7 without even flexing is just as foreign to the professional fitness model as it is to you.

Perfect abs do not exist in real life the way they do in movies or on magazine covers.

We need to realize that the illusion of perfection is really, really hurting us and our abilities to reach our goals..or even define them.

So here are some givens:

You are going to have ‘off days’ of dieting.

You weight loss is going to plateau, or even go up occasionally.

You are going to love the way you look some days, and be less then impressed on other days…and you don’t probably look any different on either day.

This doesn’t make you a failure, it makes you human…keep at it.

You are going to break a fast early, eat more than you want to, miss a workout, eat a ‘bad’ food.

The idea of eating perfectly for 4 months worth of hardcore dieting is just plain silly, even for the most dedicated fitness professional.

So if you slip, don’t worry about it, just keep moving towards your goals.

Remember: No one is perfect.

This makes it a little easier to ramp up the self-confidence.

It’s an even playing feild.

Realizing this is a giant step towards becoming awesome.

Once you realize that no one is perfect, then you have ZERO reason not to be self-confident.

We’re all flawed in our own special way, which of course means we can all be awesome if we choose to be.

So realizing that no one else is perfect either, allows you the confidence you need to be succesful at weight loss in the long term.

And that’s just awesome.


As a note…this post was highly influenced by this blog post –>


Clay September 28, 2010 at 9:50 pm

awesome stuff brad…I am 20 years old and struggle with this mentally everyday.

Moses September 28, 2010 at 11:23 pm

I am really finding it harder to keep my food cravings in check while my wife is pregnant. I find myself giving into too much food. She says it has something to do with pheremones she is putting off. Maybe that is true. What have you noticed in this area?

bart September 29, 2010 at 1:04 am

simple example:

Your posts are great, and i am getting closer to be awesome. HA!!!
I am doing 4 days of fast in the raw, and i am discovering that by only eating once a day i can still enjoy food (tastes better) , workout, and i feel great. It looks like that whole idea of eating all the time is some kind of mental system we are stuck in. I proved to myself with more frequent fasts that my body does not need that much of food and feels better without it. And i still can build muscles.

thx Brad

Leonardo September 29, 2010 at 5:45 am

Probably one of your best post…..

Vinay September 29, 2010 at 11:07 am

gr8 stuff. cool n clear

Mark Young September 29, 2010 at 12:16 pm


sibuor19 September 29, 2010 at 3:23 pm

Hi Brad….I have been following ESE for about a year now and have made good progress. But your post today hit me in a deep way. Though I am currently not where I want to be, I look at people around me who have the body that I want and I always feel imperfect and that I dont deserve to have what they have. What you have said is very true and I will try to get myself out of that mindset and continue working hard to reach my goal and try not to get down on myself when I slip up(I slipped up yesterday). This has probably been one of my favorite posts of yours so far. Your doing awesome stuff. Keep it up

Alexis September 29, 2010 at 8:49 pm

Hi Brad, I have been following your blog for a couple of months and I want an advice. My mother of 54 years old has the goal of loss some weight. Her “personal coach” gave her a regimen consisting in 1,700 calories per day during the following 3 months in order to be prepared for an event on a beach. I was unable to convince my mother that the so called diet is non-sense. The coach argument is that during this three months my mother is going to drop out fat doing only cardio (no weight lifting) and eating “healthy” 5 mini meals. Any advice?

Alykhan - Fitness Breakout September 29, 2010 at 9:48 pm


I’m glad you touched on this subject. It’s important to realize that even the celebrities you see in movies and magazines don’t have shredded abs 24-7. The media overhypes this to a certain degree and leads people to develop unrealistic expectations of themselves. Great post!


Karen September 30, 2010 at 4:01 pm

Thank you…Thank you~~you have touched on the “perfect” message for us all…we are all human enjoying or supposed to be enjoying life with our 5 physical senses and nurturing our 6th! We are all different and in that difference we are then all “perfect”… just as we are in the NOW and holding a vision for ourselves that is then “perfect” for each in the future…and loving ourselves all along the way!

AlekIsHere September 30, 2010 at 5:48 pm

I plan on making videos on these “perfection” and fitness industry subjects soon, and this is one of the subject I plan on covering first… The truth on “weightloss” and fitness gurus.

What I’ve noticed over the years about fitness and weightloss gurus, and why you shouldn’t be taking advice from them is that they tend to fall in a few general categories…

1) The professional bulimic

This is the guru who’s always dieting. You can notice this type if they’re using language like “what works for when I diet is that I”… WAIT WHAT? What do you mean when you diet? Shouldn’t you have gotten over with it, forever? Lol What they don’t tell you is that they’re dieting for 11 months of the year, and maybe in good shape for just 1 month of the year. In other words, they starve and diet all the time… Take pictures at the skinny stage and do their business off of those pictures.

As a person looking for solution, you want to take the weight off once and for all, find a system that gets you lean year round in a way that’s sustainable.

2) The professional dieter

These people are indeed fit all year round, but they are on a diet 365 days a year! What this means is that they have to obsess about what to eat and how to eat and focus on “discipline” every day. Its their job to not over-eat.

The only reason it works for them? Its their job! These people don’t have dayjobs (and most don’t have families). Literally, they can invest 100% of their mental discipline and focus in the day on dieting. Most people who have a life can’t.

3) The “never was fat” guru…

These are the type of people who had always been skinny. You can find this out if you read their biographies or whatever, where they whine how they started out being “skinny fat”. This is simply a code word for “skinny person that wasn’t toned”. In other words, they just added 5-10 pounds of muscle, and removed 5 pounds of fat to get ripped.

And that’s very doable with a few simple changes like what foods you combine or whatever. The problem is that these people, then take this system and sell it to those of us who were fat for most of our lives. They insist that combination of foods is the most perfect one.

Now here’s a secret… They don’t follow their own rules! Its not conscious… but just like a fat person, they’re dishonest about how much they follow the rules… they simply sometimes follow it, sometimes not… and for them it works, because they just need to be 5 pounds below natural… A fat person can follow their rules to the T, and not get that same ripped look… Because “us fat people” and I say this as an ex natural fattie… Find a way to over-eat no matter what rules we follow.

4) The professional cardioholic

These are kind of like the professional dieters. They hold aerobics or cardio classes like 4-5 hours a day… They may talk about the “importance of nutrition” but its just a ploy to sell supplements. If you actually calculate how much calories they spend a day, its impossible that they follow their own nutrition advice. They’d have to eat thousands of calories to just maintain their weight at those cardio levels… Who the heck can eat thousands of calories from tasteless restrictive food? No one.

Al October 2, 2010 at 1:32 am

Thank you, thank you, thank you. This post came at a time when I was starting to feel a bit discouraged. Inspiring, and a great reminder.

@Moses, I had the same problem during my wife’s last pregnancy. I started over-eating as we got closer to the due date. The problem for me was two-fold: 1) I started eating more as an emotional response to stress; 2) My wife’s food cravings resulted in some junk food sneaking back into the kitchen after I had resisted buying it for so long. And one bite of that stuff is just never enough, huh?

Seth October 3, 2010 at 1:52 am

I needed that dude. You have helped me with your blog in so many ways. This one helped because I am always chasing that “perfect” body for myself, but nobody is perfect. I think I can relax a little and enjoy looking good how I am,(which I do) even if I don’t look exactly like a model.

ryan October 3, 2010 at 12:42 pm

awesome….i like this articles. thx brad…

Fitness Training Programs October 4, 2010 at 10:30 am

Great Post Brad. If people just practiced a little self control it would be that much easier to lose weight. The idea of perfection is just nonsense and gives most people an excuse to do not take action.

KatieM October 6, 2010 at 10:01 pm

Great post, I read the original post too and I love both. Self Confidence is my biggest issue and it definitely holds me back sometimes :/

Jeff Cameron October 21, 2010 at 1:28 pm

Great article! Thanks, it’s exactly what I needed to hear today.

G December 13, 2010 at 9:59 pm

I am just wondering how one keeps from fainting on such low calories. I’ve tried cutting calories down and doing fasts and I always wind up dizzy clumsy and unable to think straight.

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